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Wednesday, July 26, 2017

After 20 years Prince Harry finally begins to talk about the sudden death of his mom, Princess Di








Ecclesiastes 3New International Version (NIV)
3 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens






On August 31, 1997, Diana, Princess of Wales, died as a result of injuries sustained in a car crash in the Pont de l'alma road tunnel in Paris, France. Dodi Fayed and Henri Paul, the driver of the Mercedes-Benz S280, were pronounced dead at the scene.


Most of who were alive at that time remember watching the news and being stunned when we learned that Princess Di perished. For Prince Harry who was 12 at the time, it was a moment he just assumes forget.

Prince Harry revealed in many recent interviews that for the last 20 years he shut down his emotions about his mom's death. After all, at the age of 12, a time he most needed his mom, she wasn't there. He was in uncharted territory with the cascading painful emotions at a time that he was entering adolescence.

Prince Harry had what all of the studies reveal regarding child bereavement a delayed grief.  For the first 20 years after the death of his mom, he stifled his emotions which are not uncommon. There is often a stigma associated with having any sort of mental health crisis and so we attempt to bury our pain under the illusion that all is well.

This is especially prevalent in our modern society where people are taught the importance of working hard and staying busy during their grief. After all, we wouldn't want to let our guard down and let other's see our pain.  Yet, if we're not talking to others about what we're feeling inside,  it comes out in ways we least expect.For some, alcohol becomes their coping mechanism for this emotional pain.

 Prince Harry talked about the mindset of the average person which is believing that other people's lives are more perfect than their own- so we live each day under the illusion that all is well with us.


 Yet, he acknowledged in the interview that it is essential to talk to another person about our pain. One of his friends acknowledged that her mom reminded her that talking to someone about your pain actually brings healing

Interestingly, Harry has now made it his life's mission to bring mental health out of the dark caverns of despair and getting people to talk about their traumatic grief.

Often, it isn't until we lose someone we've loved that the relevance of our faith comes in. Before the loss, we amber through life, care free and happy while spending our days looking for smiles and laughter, often to the exclusion of God. We put God on the shelf, making momentary glances as we walk by.

Faith, for some, has relevance only for the major holidays while shelving their faith the rest of the year. Yet, for many of us, including myself, when we are confronted with the deep raw pain of grief, our faith in God becomes the anchor that keeps us steady because we see God as someone who wants to walk with us on our daily sufferings.

The moment God brought you into this world, His promises were to never leave you nor forsake you no matter what you've experienced.

Finally, just as Harry has found a cause of helping others who struggle with mental health, God will bring you out of your own personal journey with a new calling and a passion that will benefit others.

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