Recovery from grief cannot be done alone for we all need a community of believers to go to the dark places we’re in

Grief has to be fully processed for however long it takes. There is no time line for recovery to occur. To recover from the loss of a child it can take as much as 10 years to heal.
A person may try to avoid grieving by over working, drinking or using intoxicating drugs, but those do not work in the longrun.

In fact, avoidance will only lead to the same level of pain as if the death occurred yesterday.

The reality we will all face in this lifetime is a death of someone close to us. The way to recover would be to find a support group like griefshare where you will be able to share your story and the pain of losing your loved one. To deny your grief will only cause physical and mental health problems. This could lead to a shorter life span. Men, especially, are prone to long term health problems for they are most likely to shut down their emotions and not allow them to go to the dark places they need to go.

According to Dr. Anet Varghese, Grief is the anguish experienced after significant loss, usually the death of a beloved person.

Grief often includes physiological distress, separation anxiety, confusion, yearning, obsessive dwelling on the past, and apprehension about the future. Intense grief can become life-threatening through disruption of the immune system, self-neglect, and suicidal thoughts. Grief may also take the form of regret for something lost, remorse for something done, or sorrow for a mishap to oneself.

Notice what she says about life-threatening through the disruption of the immune system. One of the first things we tell people after they experience a truamtic loss is for them to schedule an appointment with their doctor to let that person know that they just experienced the loss of a loved one.

By letting your doctor know, you're opening the door for him or her to moniter your health systems to prevent health complications from occuring that are associated with your grief.

It was at my initial appointmentthat he encouraged me to seek a therapist gifted at helping people with working with trauma. He understood as he shared the trauma when he was a teenager and watched his younger brother die.

The more you share your story, the more support you will find in your time of need-support you surely need. One other thing we did was to continue worshipping our Savior at the same church we attended when our now deceased loved one was with us. We did this because we knew that maintaining those same rituals was important to our well being and recovery process.

We need to be prepared to walk this grief journey for a long time. For the lost of a child it may take up to 10 years to recover from the pain associated with this loss.Most of us would rather that we hurt for a little while before we resume life's normal functions. Rmember, the pain you feelis the reflection of the love you had for the one who died. You loved deeply and of course you will grieve deeply so it will take a strong commitment to grieve each emotion one emotion at a time and not set time limits when this grief will end.

I assure you that your commitment to this grief work will lead to dividends of feeling like you can laugh again as you recall those memories of yesteryear.Trust the Lord and let Him walk with your through the pain.In this video below, you will meetan individual who successfully navigated her series of losses to the point where she is speaking to groups how they can recover like she did.

Ballroom dancing is teaching a man how to lead and the woman how to follow

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiatas 4:13

Linda and I started ball room dancing through the New Hope dance ministry. We first started ball room dancing several years ago when Bruce Gunderson started this ministry with his wife to help couples reconnect after difficult times entered their marriage.

'To teach a man to lead and the woman to follow' were the words of that first night devotional As we reflected on that phrase we understood the signifigance it had in ball room dancing which required the man to take the lead and for woman to trust in her guy's leading.

why is so this so important you might ask? Because we're living in an age where woman's liberation is telling young woman that they do not need a man to lead them.

The reality is that this is a lie that is creating epidemic lonliness.

When God created man and woman he created them to love and cherish each other and to procreate.

In that sense, ball room dancing is a perfect example of teaching men and woman a life long skill that will improve their relationships as difficult times enter such as the sudden loss of a child. Life is filled with heartache butlike two stands bound together your marriage will remain strong.

If you live in the Minneapolis area I encourage you to try ball room dancing. My opinion is that you will not regret it

How did we get to the point where life isn’t valued. The slippery slope toward Euthanasia

I'm sadden by the most extreme laws passed since 2023 and the repercussions that followed.

Governor Tim Walz sat between his assistant Governor and the Planned parenthood president proudly exclaiming how proud he annournced a100% increase in Minnesota tax payer abortions coming from out of state. He was proud when parents were moving their children here so they could get puberty blockers and mutilation surgery to change their sex. The lie they were told by the trans cult was would you rather have a dead daughter or a living son- a lie that was told after months and years of being told they were born in the wrong body by the same group.

I've concluded that this democratic party hates woman and children!

This Minnesota democratic party isnt done yet. At the upcoming legislative session the progressives plan on introducing a Euthanasia bill that will allow people to die if they are terminally ill or suffer from chronic pain. All the person needs is a doctor to sign off on the euthanasia paperwork and who would be willing to administer the termination drugs. As you will note from the video above, euthanasia idea comes straight from the Nazi play book.

There is a slippery slope to this law. It starts off with nobel purposes, but in time exceptions may be made to allow children with disabilities to die.I oppose this bill because it puts doctors and guardians in charge with making value judgements to sentence a person to death because in their mind they would be better off dead than alive. Like the Nazi doctors in Hitler's Germany, they will routinely sign off on paperwork because in the long run it would save the state money that would ordinarily go into convalescent care of the individual In one video I watched in preparation of this blog post there was a trans person who asked to be euthanized when his gender surgery failed. In Canada they are allowing people who suffer from depression with the right to be euthanized. Do you see where I'm going with this?

In my opinion, the slippery slope began at the start of 2020 when the CDC scared the populace into believing that attending Church is the greatest spreader of Covid and hence people should stayed away. For many, their faith suffered as hopelessness settled in. For some, this led to increased alcohol and drug use to 'help' them to cope with the pain of isolation. Some died from suicide while others died from opioid deaths. Some died from tragic accidents. Every month the CDC continued to spread the fear of covid by illustrating dead bodies in the streets, full hospital beds that were overflowing in the hospital corridor.The system was encouraged to spread this lie by a complex billing system whenever there was a positive covid test for the patiant, or when the patient needed to be intubated

Extreme hopelessness settled in when virtual school began. Children fell behind their age required acheivements so much that many were unable to pass a college entrance exam.

As a Christian, I have always believe in the power of Jesus Christ in giving new meaning to a person's life. One clear example of this were the words of Jesus from John 9:

As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth. 2 His disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?”

3 “Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him." I believe that God divinely makes us into His image As a result, we must not play God to decide which people have value and which ones are worth keeping alive. I sincerely hope that there is enough push back to reject this euthanasia bill that I think will be coming up for a vote this legislative session.