We live in a civilized culture where our lives become center around work. Young people with their freshly minted degrees step into a world with dreams of being successful. Somewhere along the way, just as their parents did and their grandparents did, they forget to take time to smell the roses and enjoy life to the fullest. The purpose of this blog isn't to make anyone feel guilty they're working too much, but encourage people to take time away to recharge their batteries.
God knew the importance of 'rest' when he made the Sabbath. He wanted us to step away from work to spend time with our loved ones as we give thanks for all that God has done in our lives. The feedback from this palliative nurse in her years of working with the dying, I hope, inspires all of us not to make the same mistakes.
God knew the importance of 'rest' when he made the Sabbath. He wanted us to step away from work to spend time with our loved ones as we give thanks for all that God has done in our lives. The feedback from this palliative nurse in her years of working with the dying, I hope, inspires all of us not to make the same mistakes.
This nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.
What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?
There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counseled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives.
Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says, "common themes surfaced again and again." https://bronnieware.com/regrets-of-the-dying/
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize until they no longer have it."
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard."This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends."Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier."This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."
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