Ever wrapped a Christmas gift that was fragile and tried mailing it and before you mailed it you made sure you had the right box, the right padding and you made sure there was a snug fit so it wouldn't rattle around in the box? When you brought the gift to the post office you made sure the postal clerk stamped Fragile and handle with care all around the box and when you turned around and head toward the door you could have sworn you heard the clerk tossed the carefully wrapped box into a cart like he was trying to spike the ball?
Ok, I just made that one up, but you get the point.
This is what happens to the surviving child when one loses one. You wrap that child up all nice and neat and you stamp fragile all over him or her and when they leave home to go to say a party you worry until they return home
. Part of you has experienced enough pain that you want to avoid at all cost going through the same experience all over again. We think we have control by wrapping up our loved one and stamping fragile and handle with care all over the package, but the reality is we never had control. We had the illusion of control.
Letting go and letting God have control is what we as parents must learn to do with our surviving children. Letting go of our child and allowing them to experience life without the handle with care and fragile stickers is in a way relinquishing that control to God and placing the child in His rightful hands.
After all if God can create the world in 7 days then don't you think he is capable of watching over your child and keeping him or her safe? As parents of a deceased child we must learn to avoid protecting our remaining children so they grow up with traumatic neuroses that makes it difficult for them to experience life to the fullest.
By relinquishing our control we remind ourselves that we do not control what happens in this life. We know with confidence that if something should happen to our remaining surviving child they will be immediately ushered into the very presence of heaven by the King of Kings and Lords of Lord Jesus Christ. That is the beautiful part of being a Christian
beautiful news of being a Christian.
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