The enemy, the devil, Satan, goes to great lengths to destroy God's church by destroying men in the course of bereavement

12 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:1

Tonight, I discovered to what extent the enemy will use to destroy His church.  It has been my experience that woman are most likely to initiate grief support groups while men will seek the comfort of alcohol and drugs.

 When I discovered to what extent, there were alarm bells that went off in my head.  When a man loses his wife to disease or sudden death, their death is first submitted to the public pages of the media.  Once that is done, men become vulnerable to the dark side of the web of organized prostitution when some will receive messages that appeal to their loneliness

. Former leader of Promise Keeper's, Bill McCartney, was aware of that vulnerability which leads him to start a movement of men to encourage them to turn their lives to Christ and become the Spiritual leaders in the home that God intended them to be.

It was a powerful movement that for many years brought men to Christ; until the devil attacked the movement and twisted the words of Bill McCartney and all of the rest of the Promise keeper's Pastors as if the intent of the ministry was to keep woman shackled to the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant. Over the years, the media relentlessly attacked this ministry until attendance died off and men once again began drifting away from the Church.  In one conversation I learned that there is a dark underbelly that ensnares men when they lose a loved one.

When I look at the Promise Keeper's ministry I saw the hope that God was bringing to men through accountability and restored relationships. It wasn't about keeping their wives shackled, barefoot and pregnant, but it was a way of keeping men in the word of God and spiritual leaders in the home as God intended them to be.
One of the ways you can prevent the dark side of the web from infiltrating your computer is to talk with an IT professional about getting advice about tightening up your computer security system so everything sinister and evil are blocked out. As men, we have to keep our guard up at all times and never underestimate the power of the devil.  When the unthinkable happens such as the loss of a loved one, we must remember to trust God by reading God's word while attending Church regardless of how you're feeling at the time, and look for a small group bible study that will hold you accountable.

Bill McCartney has been gone for several years, but the profound truths he brought to us through the Promise Keeper's ministry lives on and serves as a reminder that we must never let out guards down.