As this man testifies, the loss of a child is a profound and intense loss of which he was not able to do on his own. He shares the story of losing his 5 year old son and the cataclysism of emotions he traveled through until he felt normal again. He shared how therapists and close friends that helped him all along the way of his journey.
He was right when he shared how difficult it was to find honest videos done by men after the loss of a child. They are hard to find because men find it hard to talk about their emotions after a traumatic loss. Statistically, men are more apt to venture into alcohol and drug use before they show up at the doorstep of a therapist or groups like grief share.
In the 10 years that I have help facilitate Grief share I can attest to the fact that the groups are filled with mostly grieving woman with a small handful of men. The men who did come to grief share and completed all of their lessons recovered at a much faster pace than the ones who stayed away while their wives attended.
The reality after the loss of a child ( at any age) is that it will take at least 10 years to recover from such a loss and the reality if men choose to isolate while going from depression to anger back to depression is that they will likely display serious health symptoms requiring medical intervention. After the loss of my 10 year old daughter, Maria, I sought out a trauma therapist to help me with the intial shock and anger of the loss. Once this was completed, I joined my wife to participate in Grief share. The combination of these two things made all of the difference in my world.
We have a God who sent his son, Jesus, into the world to help us heal from our losses by walking along side us through the entire journey. He also uses groups like Griefshare.org to help with the healing process by introducing people to us who experience similar losses as ours in an evironment where we feel safe to share our emotional pain.
No comments:
Post a Comment