From a humble birth in a cavern manger to a humiliating death on the cross our greatest gift came after Jesus death and resurrection.

14 “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God[a]; believe also in me. 2 My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you?3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. 4 You know the way to the place where I am going.”

Christmas time can be a time of numerous triggers.

Loved ones we use to spend time with no longer with us. Nieces and nephews killed tragically in car accidents or medical procedures went wrong who no longer bring fits of laughter into our lives.

As a child, I remember thinking that it was my responsibility to make my parents smile when sorrow overwhelms their soul.

At a small Methodist church in Warren, Minnesota, a weepy pianist had to choke back tears when she told the congregation that two teenagers were killed on the roadways around Warren- at a time that is supposed to be a happy time. For those families, those future Christmas's will be filled trying to understand why God would punish them by 'taking' their loved one.

The death of a loved one in our Western civilization is said to be the number one reason why so many people convert to atheism- after all if God truly is a good God he wouldn't have taken our precious child. Instead of allowing God to walk with us in our pain and suffering we try to bury our grief deep below the ground in hopes the pain would never resurface. .

God's beautiful love story between Genesis and Revelation teaches us that he truly understands what it means to suffer. From his humble birth in a cavern manger when they could not find any room at an Inn to his humiliating death on the cross, God chose to understand the suffering that mankind faces with each loss.

I am also reminded of the words of Jesus in John 14,"25 “I have told you this while I’m still with you. 26 However, the helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you everything. He will remind you of everything that I have ever told you.

God'sgreatestgift came after the loss of his son when he promised to send us the gift of the holy spirit to dwell in all believers to help and guide them all of life's turmoil.

Hence, this song is a perfect reflection of God's love for mankind, and a promise that no matter what happens to you in life that God will never forsake or abandon you.

Let us all have a very Merry Christmas as we celebrate the greatest gift of all- the birth of his Son.

It is never too late to begin processing the emotions of your loss- even if it was a loss that occurred in 1962

Psalm 143:8 [Full Chapter]

Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.

 Someone asked if I heard about the news report of a brother who adopted a highway in honor of his deceased brother. I said I hadn't.  This person described the moment he brought his mom to the location of this sign.  As soon as she saw her deceased son's name on that sign her grieving began.

Her son died in 1962 when he was hit by a car trying to cross the street. That was over 50 years ago.  When I read the story of George H.W. and Barbara Bush who lost their 3-year-old daughter, Robin, from childhood leukemia the unwritten expectation for many at that time was to silently suffer without showing the world the inner pain you're in. 

Grief is a journey. A journey that requires one to face all of the emotions of loss, as though you're standing in the ocean watching each wave of emotion passing over your feet, one wave at a time until that emotion passes.

Yet, there are many in our western culture who are needlessly suffering after a tragic loss because of this unwritten rule they must bury their emotions from that loss and pretend it doesn't hurt.

 For some, the loss of someone dear to them becomes the existential question they must answer: if God exists why would he allow bad things to happen to good people? This is probably the single most question that determines the course they will take for the duration of their life. 

 Do they reject the all-knowing God and pretend He doesn't exist or do they embrace God by remaining plugged into a local church while working on all of the emotions associated with their pain? Both are choices the person has to make.

 My observations of watching people remind me that the ramifications of rejecting God will only lead to anger, addictions, physical problems with health and early death.

As I began processing my emotions following our loss, we made the conscious decision to continue to worship at the same church we did when our loved one was still alive. It was hard, I must admit, to sit in the sanctuary in those beginning days while watching those around us seeming so happy.

To watch others bellow out the praise and worship songs while we were in the cataclysmic of our grief was hard; yet, when we chose to follow God by reading his love letter to us and remaining plugged into a local church- always going regardless of what we're feeling at the moment- we saw some amazing things take place. I saw a son who wasn't going to quit because he saw his dad not quitting his faith.  

We saw our adult Sunday school class grow closer together, learning ways they can help those who are suffering.  

We heard this concept as last nights Grief share: God has a purpose for our pain, good things will come out of our losses if we're willing to process all of the messy emotions of whatever loss we're experiencing. 

So if I can offer any suggestions of what to do after a loss, these are the suggestions I would give: (1) stay plugged into a local Church, (2) get into a Bible study where you can continue to receive the word of God, (3) find a grief share group near you to teach you how to go through the pain, not around it.  Lastly, remember that God sacrificed his own son, Jesus Christ on the cross so Jesus can reign in your heart through the good times and not so good times of your life

 The mom who recently started grieving the loss of her son in 1962 did a good thing beginning o process the messy emotions of her loss. It is never too late.

God truly does love you and wants you to recover from the pain of your loss. If you are looking for a grief share group to get involved in after the holidays simply go to Griefshare through this link and find a group near you.  https://www.griefshare.org

George H.W. Bush and Barbara Bush were members of the club no one wants to belong to- the club of parents who lost a child.

Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. 1 Thessalonians 4:13

Early Saturday morning I saw the headline: George H W Bush dead at 94. Just months previous to that his wife Barbra died. George H Bush had a distinguished military career enlisting in the United States Navy at the age of 18 and becoming the youngest Aviator in Navy history. His list of accomplishments is too numerous to mention in this blog.

 What many may not know about the Bush family is that they became members of the club no one wants to belong to when their young daughter Robin died from childhood leukemia.

In the Washington Post article published shortly after Barbara's passing was this headline: ‘One last time’: Barbara Bush had already faced a death more painful than her own 

When their 3-year-old daughter was complaining of being tired she took her to their family physician. A few days later the Bushes received the news no family wanted to hear- that little Robin had childhood leukemia. The complaint had been fatigue; the prescription was to take their child home to die.“Her advice was to tell no one, go home, forget that Robin was sick, make her as comfortable as we could, love her — and let her gently slip away,” Bush wrote in her 1994 memoir. “She said this would happen very quickly.”

The day after receiving the bad news, the Bushes flew to Manhatten to stay with the grandparents. George H's father was a medical doctor who worked at the Sloan-Kettering cancer research hospital, a leading cancer center even when cancer was barely understood and nearly taboo to mention.

 Robin stayed in the hospital, having regular bone marrow tests and blood transfusions. Barbara Bush stood at her daughter's side throughout the treatment process. 

On one quick outing to Maine, Robin got to see her two brothers whose pictures were taped to her hospital headboard. They had no idea that their sister's life was ebbing away. In October their daughter died with her parents being in that room. Barbara had this to say about that moment: "“For one last time I combed her hair and held our precious little girl,”

George W. said that Robin's death forged a bond that he leaned on through his father's Presidency and then his own. Barbara Bush remembered the time that she was too much of a burden for her young son when she overheard George W tell a friend on the phone, "One day … she heard her son tell a friend that he couldn’t come out because he had to play with his mother, who was lonely. “I was thinking, ‘Well, I’m being there for him,’ ” she recalled. “But the truth was he was being there for me.”

When Robin died there weren't a lot of grief support groups like we have today to help people like Barbara. When a person suffers a loss they are expected to suffer silently away from others. Today, we know far more about the psycho-social ramifications of loss and with that, there are a vast amount of resources help people survive this journey. 

Whereas it may hurt when a loss occurs, the good news is that God is no stranger to loss when he willingly gave up his son Jesus Christ to die so that we can all have life everlasting. In the life of Barbara Bush the moment she stepped into heaven she was filled with joy when Robin ran to her mom.  The scene repeated when Robin's dad, George H W Bush entered into heaven.

 Our Faith is what keeps us going in this grief-stricken world.

If your suffering from the loss of someone close to you, I encourage you to find a griefshare group by clicking on this link. Griefshare is a 13-week group that teaches you to how to go through the pain, not around it.https://www.griefshare.org If you want to read the original Washing Post article you can do so through this link. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/retropolis/wp/2018/04/17/one-last-time-barbara-bush-has-already-faced-a-death-more-painful-than-her-own/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.503891802abc