Hebrews 10:23New American Standard Bible (NASB)
23 Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful;
To anyone who has ever been told by well meaning friends or professionals
to move on in your grief,
or
trust God and you won't be so sad
or
stuck in your grief
I dedicate this blog to you.
Well meaning people who say those things only wish they had the old you back
They are grieving for the friend they once knew,
who laughed spontaneously,
loved to do things spontaneously,
or tell funny stories and spontaneously laugh at them
They grieve too
If only they could see that for every time you are hit by sadness
it is
because the love you had for the loved one no longer there
If only they can see that the difficulty you are having with
healing from this loss
is related to the intensity of emotions you had for the person
you loss
Whenever you are hit with a sudden gust of emotions from your loss
picture in you mind being on a sail boat on the open water
when
a sudden gust of wind blows and you quickly swing your sail
to catch the breeze
like a good yachtsman
lean into your grief
don't deny it,
or
pretend it isn't there
ride into those emotions
like the wind on the open sea
the intensity will not last long
Sooner than later they will return to a sea of calm
Remember,
there is no time table for this sort of grief
it is as unique as the love you had for the person who died
When
that day arrives when you are feeling half way normal again
When you have adjusted to the new normal in your life
compassion for others
traveling this strange road
will become your
new passion!
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