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Wednesday, December 3, 2025

As you consider whether to do grief share again, or do things that brings honor to the person who died, remember that because of what Jesus Christ did on he cross means that He is in heaven the moment your loved one arrived.

Moving Forward: Embracing Grief After Grief Share

As the final session of Grief Share came to a close, a hush fell over the room, a poignant silence punctuated by the echoes of shared stories, tears, and laughter. This was a journey where every heartbreaking memory was met with understanding, where the weight of loss was shared in empathetic embraces. It was a space created for connection and healing, a sacred place where every person had a voice and felt seen.

Many of us come to Grief Share searching for closure, hoping that by the end of those sessions, we might have gathered the strength to move forward. However, as we sat together on that last day, it became clear that closure was perhaps an unrealistic expectation. The word itself carries a sense of finality that feels antithetical to the journey of grief — an unpredictable and often turbulent path that doesn’t end with a neatly-tied bow.

In our discussions, we shared how moving forward does not equate to forgetting. Grief is not linear; it is a tapestry woven with threads of love, memory, and longing. One participant shared a story about how she had sat in her living room filled with photos of her mother, candles, and flowers. Each evening, as she lit a candle, she felt her mother’s presence, as if they were sharing a quiet cup of tea together. This ritual wasn’t about clinging to sorrow; rather, it was a way to celebrate a life that had deeply shaped hers.

Another group member spoke of how he had started a garden in honor of his daughter. Each plant represented a memory. Tending to the garden became a therapeutic act, a way for he and his wife to honor the love that remained. It reminded us all that love doesn’t end with death; it transforms, shows itself in different forms, and can coexist alongside the pain.

As we shared our individual perspectives and ideas on how to honor our loved ones, the atmosphere shifted from solemnity to empowerment. Together, we recognized that the end of Grief Share didn’t signify the end of our grief but the beginning of a new relationship with it. Grief would continue to ebb and flow like the tides — sometimes overwhelming, sometimes gentle, always shifting.

It’s important to acknowledge that while we may feel a heavy heart on certain days, those feelings do not overshadow the love and memories we hold dear. As one insightful participant eloquently put it, “Grief is the price we pay for love.” This phrase resonated deeply, emphasizing that while our heart may ache, it also swells with the memories of those we have loved and lost.

In these moments, we allow ourselves to embrace grief as a testament to the connections we have forged, the bonds we have made, and the lives we have touched. Each day is a new opportunity to move forward, not by letting go of our lost loved ones, but by carrying them with us in our hearts, in our stories, and in our everyday lives.

As we wrapped up our final session, we didn’t exchange goodbyes but rather “see you laters.” Grief Share was just one chapter in our stories — a story that continues to evolve. We left knowing that we would carry the love for those we lost into the future, fostering growth, healing, and an enduring connection.

So, as you venture into the next phase of your grief journey, remember this: moving forward doesn’t mean forgetting. It means honoring what once was, understanding that grief is an ongoing story, and inviting those cherished memories to be a part of your life as you continue to write new chapters. In the end, grief may change, but it will always remind us of the love that was, and will always be, a part of who we are.

Monday, December 1, 2025

The most powerful moment in the 'Everyone loves Raymond' reunion show was when the actors paid tribute to Sawyer Sweeten, who took his life in 2015. It was a moment where suicide was taken out of the cloud of secrecy and compassionately discussed because people need your support

For Christ did not enter a sanctuary made with human hands that was only a copy of the true one; he entered heaven itself, now to appear for us in God’s presence. Hebrews 9:24

A Tribute that Resonated: Heartfelt Moments from the 'Everybody Loves Raymond' Reunion

Reunions have a way of tugging at our heartstrings, reminding us of beloved characters and cherished moments. Yet, the recent reunion of "Everybody Loves Raymond" offered so much more than nostalgia; it carved out a poignant space for remembrance and reflection, especially regarding the untimely death of actor Sawyer Sweeten. As we celebrated the show’s iconic moments, the producers took a meaningful step to honor the twin who portrayed Geoffrey Barone – a decision that shed light on a topic often shrouded in silence: suicide.

Sawyer Sweeten, who captivated audiences with his charming presence, passed away tragically in 2015. While the family and fans mourned the loss, the reality of his death was something that many people found difficult to discuss. Suicide, after all, is a subject laden with stigma, fear, and misunderstanding. By recognizing Sawyer in this reunion, the producers didn’t just pay tribute to a beloved character; they also opened the door for a conversation about mental health that our society desperately needs.

The tribute was both emotional and brave. The producers took a moment to share stories of Sawyer's infectious laughter and his spirit on set. They invited his family to join in this celebration of his life, fostering a sense of unity and love. This act of remembrance served as a reminder that those who suffer from mental health challenges aren't alone; their stories and struggles matter. It challenged the audience to reflect on their own experiences, whether they were touched directly or indirectly by similar issues.

What made this tribute so impactful was its authenticity. In a world where many “soften” difficult discussions or avoid them altogether, the reunion highlighted the importance of honest conversations surrounding mental health. By openly addressing Sawyer's death, the show took a significant step in normalizing discussions about suicide, encouraging viewers to reach out for help, and to remember that seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

In many ways, the bittersweet moments of the reunion showcased a powerful message: love, connection, and understanding can help heal wounds, both big and small. The show's history of humor and heart warmed many hearts, but the tribute transcended entertainment; it was a genuine reminder that behind the laughter lies the potential for deeper discussions and awareness.

At a time when suicide rates are alarmingly high, especially among young people, this moment could not have come at a better time. Recognizing Sawyer's life and struggles allowed viewers to see the person behind the punchlines, reminding us that mental health should be a priority in our communities. It’s not merely about finding the right words to say; it's about being there for each other, listening, and guiding those we love toward the support they need.

In the end, "Everybody Loves Raymond" has always been about family, love, and resilience. By addressing the tragic loss of Sawyer Sweeten, the show has not only honored a beloved actor, but it has also paved the way for much-needed conversations about mental health awareness. This reunion will surely be remembered for its warmth, laughter, and its brave acknowledgment of the vulnerabilities we all share, whether in the spotlight or behind the scenes.

So, as we reminisce about our favorite Ray and Debra moments, let’s carry forward the lesson of compassion—to listen, support, and love those around us with open hearts. After all, everyone deserves to be seen and heard, especially when it matters most.

Saturday, November 29, 2025

The loss of a child is one of the most painful losses that we as parents can go through in this life. Listen to Paul describe his experience . I think you will have renewed hope in our creator God that one day He will make all things new again. I want to thank my Lindbergh class of 74 classmate for sending this to me.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

No one ever expects to outlive their child. No one is ever prepared when it happens to them and when it does, it seems that sadness and sorrow become your life time companions. We're never prepared how to handle the loss of a child. We understand how to process the pain of losing a parent, or grandparent, but never a child.

As a facilitator of Grief share, I know this all too well when I listen to the stories participants share of their loved ones. Stories of pain,of stomache ache, of nightmares and flashbacks, of significant anxiety that sometimes sends them to the ER for help.Stories of being unable to walk anywhere near their deceased child's bedroom because the pain is still raw, sometimes several years after the loss. Stories of isolation when your world begins closing in on you because of the fear of venturing outdoors.

Stories of being unable to drive anywhere near the schools or favorite eating places you remember eating at with your child. Stories of some extended family members, or even the chaplain who was there the night your child died telling you they don't think they could ever step inside your home again because of those memories.

Alas, when I think about this, I'm struck by how this is the way American's grieve. When it happens, we slip on our dark suit and go to our friends funeral service to pay respects to their child before going home, taking off our dark suit and resume our daily activity with hopes of never going into that grief box again.

We, as American's, just want to be happy. We are pleasure seekers, not pain seekers. But God reminds us that at some point all of us will die. No, it's not a lovely thought, but it will happen.

God reminds us through His word that when our lives end and we know Jesus Christ we will transgress to the other side of the veil toward a heavenly waiting room filled with people who went before us. Some say God uses the people who died we knew the best to be in the forefront of that waiting room: parents, grandparents, friends and of course, Jesus Christ, will all be there to welcome you home.

As Paul described his vision about heaven, I also see heaven as a beautiful place, a new earth, where no more suffering,no more pain, no more earthly sickness or disability will exist.

You're loved one may not be here, but if you still have breathe you still have a purpose to fulfill in this life. So, what is your purpose? To share your faith story of how your loss has shaped you. You're newly planted soap box is designed to share Jesus Christ to bring others toward Him.

Finally, I urge newly bereaved people to consider a 13-week Griefshare group to learn more about and recover from your grief. You're life still has purpose and you want to get yourself mentally and emotionally ready to conquer life's tasks and be there for your friends and family. For some who have experience a very traumatic loss, I encourage you to seek the help of a truama Psychologist who truly understand what you're experiencing ( not all do) so you can get the help you need to heal.